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Is it necessary to be ‘openly’ gay on social media?

She was talking about dealing with a woman who didn’t believe she was gay because she was not open about it on social media.

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I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and this interesting topic came up. She was talking about dealing with a woman who didn’t believe she was gay because she was not open about it on social media. My answer to my friend was : that is your cue to leave the girl alone. But I thought about it for a minute. Is it necessary to be openly gay on social media?

My friend is a private person. Her sexual preference is not displayed on her Facebook. You will never see her speak on her dating life online. It is no secret that she is a lesbian to her family and friends. And if you ask her, she’ll tell you. Her theory is she just rather not put it on public display. A lot of people get caught up in someone’s sexual identity. At the end of the day, my friend just doesn’t want to be only remembered or defined by who she decides to love.

And I get it.

I feel we live in a society now where you can be more transparent about your sexuality because of the major strides LGBTQ advocates have made. On the other hand, I do feel people use their sexuality for attention. “Look at me, I’m gay”. Every other post is about being gay to the point I always want to SCREAM on their post “is there anything else about yourself that you would like for the world to know? I’m just saying.”

On the brighter side though there are the ones who use their sexuality as inspiration for those struggling with their own identity. They use their story to help others, and I applaud them.

In my friend’s case, she supports gay events. Always talks about gay things. She just chooses not to share her sexual preference with the online world. And no, she doesn’t have anything to hide.

On my profile I do share my sexual preference (lesbian) to my family and friends. And really, that’s about the only indication that I’m a lesbian that you’ll get out of me online about it. Well besides this post right here and my other one lol.  So I guess my friend and I are one in the same except my preference is available for you to see on Facebook. I feel like to each its own. I call my friend the “Queen Latifah”. I’m not going to explain that one, but if you dig deep you’ll understand why I said that.

I guess because my friend never openly talks about being gay online, the woman she was talking to assumed my friend was hiding something.  The woman is an open gay who is not afraid to show her sexuality anywhere. I applaud her freedom of expression. We should be free to express who we are without fault.

But I know a lot of people my age late 20s and older, who just choose not to share in that experience. It doesn’t mean they are less proud or hiding anything.

And it certainly doesn’t mean they are not gay.

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Billy Porter To Play James Baldwin In Biopic

Billy Porter is set to play novelist and civil rights activist James Baldwin in an upcoming biopic produced by Byron Allen’s Allen Media Group Motion Pictures.

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Billy Porter is set to play writer and civil rights activist James Baldwin in an upcoming biopic produced by Byron Allen’s Allen Media Group Motion Pictures.

Billy Porter will play in James Baldwin biopic

Porter and Dan McCabe will write the script for the biopic based on David Leeming’s 1994 book James Baldwin: A Biography.

The deep look into Baldwin’s life and struggles represents the culmination of a long-held creative ambition for the Emmy-, Tony- and Grammy Award-winning performer.

“As a Black queer man on this planet with relative consciousness, I find myself, like James Baldwin said, ‘in a rage all the time.’ I am because James was. I stand on James Baldwin’s shoulders, and I intend to expand his legacy for generations to come,” Porter said in a statement.

About James Baldwin

Born in Harlem in 1924, Baldwin was a gay African American writer and civil rights activist who spent much of his life outside the U.S., writing largely about Black identity, activism, sexuality and race relations.

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James Baldwin (Photo by: Allan Warren)

Baldwin is best-known for the iconic books, Go Tell It on the Mountain, Notes of a Native Son, Another Country and The Fire Next Time, which have all been turned into or inspired by movies, including If Beale Street Could Talk and I Am Not Your Negro documentary.

Production

Porter’s Incognegro Productions will co-produce the James Baldwin biopic along with Allen Media Group.

“Billy Porter and Dan McCabe’s talent and commitment to amplifying James Baldwin’s legacy and contributions are invaluable and unmatched for this unique and epic story,” said Allen, chairman and CEO of Allen Media Group, in a statement reports The Hollywood Reporter.


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Byron Perkins Makes History As First Openly Gay HBCU Football Player

With his announcement, Perkins is the first openly gay football player at a Historically Black College or University.

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Byron Perkins, a defensive back who plays Division I football at Hampton University in Virginia, came out as gay on Instagram this week. With his announcement, Perkins is the first openly gay football player at a Historically Black College or University.

Byron Perkins on being the first openly gay HBCU football player

“I have come to understand that life is precious and I could be gone at any moment, therefore, I will no longer be living a lie,” Perkins posted to Instagram. “No one should have to live a life crippled by what society thinks.”

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Byron Perkins (Photo Source: Hampton University)

Perkins is a 6’3” redshirt junior from Chicago, Ill. The transfer from Purdue University has appeared in a total of 11 games over two seasons at Hampton. The Hampton Pirates have a record of 4-2 this season in the Colonial Athletic Association (CAA).

In an exclusive interview with OutSports, Perkins said he came out in part to set an example for other Black gay male athletes who are suffering in the closet.

“Especially at an HBCU, young Black gay men need an outlet,” Perkins told Zeigler of OutSports. “They need a support system. There hasn’t been an out gay football athlete at an HBCU. I want to end the stigma of what people think. I want people to know they can be themselves.”

Perkins opened up with the outlet, sharing the challenges of being in the closet and how keeping his sexual identity private had hindered his growth as a person.

“I’ve been self-reflective and trying to prioritize what makes me happy and makes me feel alive,” Perkins told OutSports. “I thought it could be just football and school, but there was a component missing. And recently I’ve been able to figure out that I haven’t been fully happy because everyone didn’t know who I was. Authenticity is everything to me.”

He is proving gay men can play football as well.

About Hampton University

Hampton University was founded in 1868 as Hampton Agricultural and Industrial School for freed Black men following the U.S. Civil War. The research university in Hampton, VA is renowned for its museum, which is not only the oldest museum in Virginia but it’s also the oldest African American museum in the U.S.


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Tevin Campbell Opens Up About His Sexuality As A Gay Man

Singer Tevin Campbell is opening up about his sexuality and his life and career while being in the music industry.

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Singer Tevin Campbell is opening up about his sexuality and his life and career while being in the music industry.

Tevin Campbell opens up about his sexuality

Known for his ’90s hits “Can We Talk” and “I’m Ready”, the R&B star confirmed to PEOPLE in a podcast that he is gay.

Navigating in a heteronormative industry,  Campbell says he didn’t “hide anything” about himself all those years ago. “I didn’t try to act a certain way or anything.” But also adding that, “you just couldn’t be [gay] back then.”

After taking a break in the late 1990s after his third studio album didn’t perform well, Campbell’s personal journey with his sexuality began.

“When I came out to my family and friends [at] about 19 or 20, that was it for me. And then I went on the road of discovering myself. I didn’t know who I was,” Campbell shares.

While there has been speculation on Campbell’s sexual identity throughout the years, the singer has kept his personal life private since the start of his career. But that speculation came to a “end” earlier this year when Campbell tweeted (and later deleted) the phrase “Tevin is…” followed by a rainbow flag emoji.

“It was a casual thing for me,” Campbell says of what many took as his “coming out”. In truth, he adds, “I love my fans, but what they think about my sexuality is of no importance to me.”

Loving himself

For Campbell, who has new music in the works, his top priority is loving himself.

“What makes me happiest right now is how far I’ve come in life,” he says, “You know, there are a lot of child stars that don’t make it. But a lot of us do… and the fact that I’ve embraced me.”


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